Leadership Skills:7 Ways on How To Deal With Annoying People
Leadership skills means that at one point in time you will be confronted with annoying people, so you need to know how best to deal with this situaiton. In the process of creating and leading your team, you will find that not everybody that you team up with are going to be motivated, focused and determined in a positive way, you will have to deal with people that are annoying, yet you must work with them in order to achieve your goals.
Leadership skills does not mean that you will always be dealing with motivated, focused and determined people, it means that you will be getting to know people who are annoying. What strategies are you going to use in order to deal with them and still get things done?
Leadership skills does not mean that you will always be dealing with motivated, focused and determined people, it means that you will be getting to know people who are annoying. What strategies are you going to use in order to deal with them and still get things done?
Do you always have to be nice, professional and to the point in order to get the work done? What you need here is to make yourself understood clearly or you will risk letting your dislike translate into inefficient communication which will hinder or even undermine entirely whatever the project which you wanted to work on.
I have developed 7 golden rules which I have been following successfully as leadership skills in dealing with annoying people and still getting things done:
1. Use Your Listening Skills
Leadership skills and working with annoying people requires that you are able to listen and listen carefully. From experience I have seen that a lot of conflicts are based on misunderstandings so what I do is to always make sure that I am getting everything right. This way I am able to tune someone out when they annoy me by carefully questioning them and focusing on the topic at hand so that you will get I get what I need and this way I avoid straying too far.
How many times have you come across a supposedly leader who has very poor listening skills? Did you feel that they understood you? Poor listening always will lead to misunderstanding which means you will be spending more time with someone doing clarifications instead of having a basis of building relationship and understanding.
2. How Can Leadership Skills Help You To Deal With Annoying People If You Have To Repeat Everything:
Yes that is a legitimate question, because repeating everything can be annoying to the person that you are talking to. I have found out that besides the tendency to tune out people that I would rather avoid, I found that my feelings about that person did color my perception on what they were saying. Using my leadership skills I developed a tactic which helpes me to avoid this, by always repeating back any instructions, questions or other problems which I felt would be an issue of misunderstanding. This way I made sure that I understood everything that was being said and also gave them the chance to correct me in case they felt I misunderstood them.
3. Learning How To Keep Your Cool
Have you ever experienced this, somebody rub’s you the wrong way and what do you do? Yes of course you want to argue with them and also go to the extent of starting to point out their faults.
Unless you notice that they are on the wrong track and this will directly and materially affect you, do not argue or start a debate as this will only prolong your anger– and neither of you is likely to change your mind.
4. Draw Clear and Transparent Boundaries:
Leadership skills will enable you to understand that you will never be friends to everyone and when you think about it you do not want to be everybody’s darling. You need to learn to be diplomatic, but clear about your boundaries by for example setting your priority and letting annoying people know what is important for you.
5. Fire and Ice As Leadership Skills of Dealing With Annoying People:
Avoid trying to engage with an angry or irrational person. They are not in a position to offer constructive and objective message so in the heat of aggression, any word or action will obviously be interpreted as aggressive. This will trigger more aggression so the best thing to do in this case is to sit quietly and let them spend themselves ranting and raving, and then ask if they’d like to schedule a time to discuss the matter more calmly and return to whatever you were doing. You have nothing to gain by engaging with an irate person in the heat of the moment
6. Learn When To Close Your Doors:
Remember that it’s all about you and your own time, so do not let other people, especially ones you would rather not interact with take control of your time.
Make sure that your communication with annoying people is limited to fulfilling the objectives of your goal so that you make it clear for them when you are not available or will not make yourself available for other activities.
7. You Must Remember You Are Valuable:
Being obligated to spend time with someone you dislike is in most cases a mutual feeling for both parties, so try as much as possible to provide something of value for example your specialized knowledge, talent or even things as abstract as emotional support or solidarity. Use your leadership skills to speak out your mission clearly so that you avoid being distracted from your mission and do not be afraid to remind others of that and how valuable this means to both you and them as they need you just as much as you need them.
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What a brilliant post! Dealing appropriately with annoying people is essential to keep one’s sanity, energy and motivation up. Thanks a lot for sharing
Hi Aurore,
I know exactly what you mean! Annoying people can be really drive one up the way, so that is why it is important that we learn how to deal with them. Thanks for commenting on my blog
yea this was great i have some annoying people but i deal with them, it sure better than having a crazy job
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Hi Tanisha,
Having a crazy job and annoying people is as far as I am concerned double punshipment. If you are self-employed you have the liberty of choice. Thanks very much for commenting on my blog
Thanks a lot for the tips. Being a leader can be so challenging sometimes when you have to deal with annoying people, but since they are part of the team you have always find a way to tackle them. Your tips will help me a great deal.
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Hi Howard,
I am glad that you have found the article of value and would like to thank you very much for commenting on my blog
Brilliant message I had to work very hard on myself to overcome this, some would find it easy but when I first started self development… I needed a lot of work! Irritating people do just that irritate me…but now I don’t react. Loved this message. Sara
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Hi Chris N Sara,
I am glad that you have found the article of value! Annoying people can take up so much time if we allow them!
Great set of helpful pointers there Elizabeth
It is an excellent idea to be prepared with a strategy for dealing with ‘difficult’ people, and boy, do they pop up when you’re least expecting them!!
Jacs
Hi Jacs,
Absolutely, but again I think it is because we are dealing with people that is why we should expect that they will come in with their different characteristics
Haha!! I love your title Elizabeth
And you WILL deal with annoying people if you are in business for sure. Great tips. Keep Shining!
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Hi Vanessa,
Annoying people are going to be part and parcel not just for our business but also our life! Thanks very much for commenting on my blog!
annoying people also help you gain patience
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Elizabeth…when I read the title, I BURST into laughter because I seem to be constantly dealing with one or two irritating people, and I have to take a very deep breath before interacting so that I make sure that my thoughts don’t come across when interacting. Usually, these are people who seem to know it all and they treat me as though I know nothing. It’s very, very difficult to maintain composure in those interactions.
So far, there is no need to walk away, but I must admit that it’s a challenge dealing with these two people. I don’t enjoy it at all. Thank you so much for writing this. I know I am not alone now, and I can grow in these relationships and let them make me a better leader over time.
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Hi Christi,
I am glad that the article has been of value to you. I always tell myself that if I successfully dealt with a difficult situation without losing my temper or getting annoyed, then I always reward myself because I believe this is another step of development!
Thanks for your great advice Elizabeth. I often need a little help with #3!
Hi Kim,
Yes it is important that we learn to keep cool because sometimes we do not want to get to the same level as those people annoying us.
Hi Elizabeth,
The first point you made about listening is so important. We have two ears and one month and we should use them in that proportion. Most of us, me included sometime use them the other way round. Thanks for these tips, very helpful.
Tristram Lodge
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Hi Tristram,
I have laughed at how you have related the two ears and one mouth. I am glad that you have found the article of value to you
Enjoyed it, I needed it and will try to put it into practice. Thanks, Keep up the excellent articles!
Hi Brian,
I am glad that you have found the article of value and thank you very much for commenting on my blog
Hi Elizabeth,
Great post. I started thinking while I was reading about when do you decide enough is enough and then came #6.
I had this same situation yesterday. Someone kept me on the phone for 3 hours. I answered all of their questions and I did not take control of the situation (my own time) as it turned out was; I hate to say a wasted 3 hours but they did not follow my advice and I could have been helping someone who needed my time more.
Thanks for your great post. Monna
Hi Monna,
I am sure that after a few days you will reflect back and be very proud of yourself that you managed not to explode even after three hours of trying to help somebody on the phone. I find that that is what makes us stronger! Thanks for commenting on my blog
Great tips here though I have found as my true leadership skills have grown I find others less and less ‘annoying’ as it rarely gets to that point. True leadership is influence and inspiration and I now tend to see ‘annoying’ people as people I can help to get through their issues and I send them love.
Louise Edington
The Networking Naturopath
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http://louiseedington.com
Hi Louise,
You are absolutely right that our leaderships grow with us as we develop along our business so that we are able to master most difficult situations. Thanks for commenting on my blog
Great tips! Still haven’t gotten to the point of repeating what the other person says, but you’re right about tending to tune annoying people out. If I new I had to repeat back, I would be forced to pay attention and really hear what they’re saying.
Jean
30 Days of Gratitude Challenge Coach
https://www.socgratitude.com/32934
Hi Jean,
Actually I use the repeating tactic so that people notice that I am taking the issue in question seriously and that I would like to make sure that I have understood what it is all about. Thanks for your comments here!
Thanks for this. I’ve had to deal with a LOT of annoying people at some stage and I’m glad I’m now prepared for even more. Much appreciated!
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Hi Michaelangelo,
I guess as long as we are interacting with people, we will always come across difficult people!. Thanks for commenting on my blog
Great article Elizabeth, In a way, it’s just like raising our kids…LOL..(especially teenagers) We should base our leadership skills and natural aptitudes based on how we show our children the way to succeed in life. Yes, we will always do our best and that’s a great place to start. You have great points in your post! Sharing now!
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Hi Nathalie,
That is a great example with raising kids. I think if we use that method then we will have more patience with annoying people. Thanks for commenting on my blog
Great post! I’ve dealt with individuals that make you want to pull your hair out at times. You’ve given some solid tips. Thank you for sharing!
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Hi Christy,
Thanks very much for commenting on my blog and I am happy to learn that the article has been of value to you
I agree with you on all of the seven leadership skills, which we need to apply in our life as we work to build our own team first and assist others to build their team.
Hi Eric,
Thanks very much for commenting on my blog. I am glad you have found the article of value
Great post again Elizabeth. I am a very calm person so have never had to argue with anyone, but I know what you mean. I have sometimes felt like it !!
Hi Merle,
I really find it amazing how there are some people who can be calm even at sitautions where I think I would be exploding like a volcano! thanks for your comments here!